Inner Peace: How to achieve it?

Inner Peace

We live in a convulsive society that forces us to have very restless lives in which we do not stop for a second. If we neglect, we are dragged by a whirlwind of tasks, most of them insignificant, but they do not leave us a minute free. In fact, we are so imbued with this rhythm that sometimes, when we have a little time for ourselves, we feel guilty.

However, there is a time when it is necessary to say “enough!”. It suffices to the senseless preoccupations and the overwhelming rhythm of life. It suffices social pressures and the desire to do everything perfectly.

Rediscovering inner peace is fundamental. Therefore, from time to time it is imperative to relax a bit, take a break and give a new order to our priorities.

What is inner peace?

The inner peace is a subjective feeling of well-being, it is impalpable but very real since it fills us with a deep tranquillity. It is a state in which we are freed from the main concerns, fears, stress and suffering.

However, inner peace involves more than freeing ourselves from negative emotions and feelings, it also means being aware of the wonders of life and feeling fully connected with the universe and with ourselves.

Inner peace is a feeling of calmness in which we stop struggling against negative and disturbing thoughts and emotions, although that does not mean that they do not exist but that they stop dominating us and causing us harm. It is a state in which we mentally and emotionally separate ourselves from everyday problems and conflicts, stopping at the verminousness of the daily routine.

Can inner peace be achieved?

Many people think that it is impossible to achieve a state of inner peace. They say that everyday life is so uncertain and sometimes so capricious, that it is not possible to find serenity. And it is true, at least for these people. When we have a locus of external control and any situation has the power to negatively affect us and make us lose our calm, it is impossible to find inner peace. These people are like leaves moved by the wind.

However, this does not imply that it is impossible to achieve inner peace. When we have an internal locus of control we can decide which wars are worth fighting for. Once we take the reins of our life, we can aspire to inner peace.

Therefore, inner peace is not something that is along the way, it is a personal decision, it is something that we can construct by consciously assuming those behaviors that can give us serenity.

Seven keys to achieving that state of inner peace:

1. Give time for reflection. Spend less hours on newspapers and newscasts and more time exploring your interior. Once you allow your mind to absorb the negativity transmitted by most media, it is very difficult to clean it. So, schedule your day so that you have time to be alone with yourself and reflect. It is not that you turn your problems around but that you practice meditation, that you try to rediscover in yourself the peace and serenity that you need. It is about that every day, you are accountable to yourself.

2. Simplify your life. Sometimes you do not want the day to have more than 24 hours? We cannot extend the day at our whim but we can simplify our life, so that we take better advantage every hour. From time to time, it is convenient to stop and ask if we are doing what we like or if we are wasting time uselessly. At this point we should think about how to simplify our life so that we can focus on the important things, which give us satisfaction.

3. Avoid criticism, practice acceptance. We tend to compare, draw conclusions and then criticize. However, negative criticism is the worst enemy of inner peace. When we criticize we place ourselves in the position of fighting against someone, when we should empathize and try to understand. Criticism not only hurts those who are criticized but also the one who issues that judgment of value. Criticism is often an expression of mental rigidity and rejection. However, inner peace cannot be achieved by closing oneself to the world but by finding harmony with it.

4. Accept negative thoughts and emotions. Finding inner peace means, above all, balance. Therefore, you will not be able to find serenity if you continue to struggle against “negative” thoughts and emotions or if you intend to hide them in the most hidden part of your mind. To attain inner peace, you need to accept these thoughts and emotions, in fact, experiencing them, will lose their influence on you and you will get rid of their burden.

5. Learn to let go. Throughout our life we ​​accumulate a lot of resentment and resentment, these feelings end up hurting us and prevent us from achieving that inner peace that we so long for. That is why it is fundamental that we learn to let go of those feelings that affect us and keep us tied to the past. The visualization technique ” the leaves of the river ” will help you to achieve it.

6. Practice gratitude. Do not let a single day go by without feeling grateful for something. There is always something for which to give thanks, you just must learn to value the things that we take for granted, as the simple fact of living or having at our side people who love us and those we love. When we begin to feel grateful for what we have, instead of complaining about what we do not have, we find a new internal balance.

7. Give without expecting to receive change. Selfishness has settled in our culture, people give hope of receiving something in return, in a kind of tacit Mafioso agreement. However, to achieve inner peace, we must shed selfishness and rediscover the pleasure of giving by the simple act of helping. The act of giving itself must be satisfactory, that is the goal, not to expect something in return.

It is important to remember that in a balanced state of mind a human being can measure emotions and take appropriate action in a conscious way.

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Presence of mind – Only true friend in your darkest hour

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Life is all about taking chances. Sometimes the choices we make reap us fortunes more than we had ever imagined, but mostly the first thing we meet is failure. Probably lives way of telling us that we did not plan well and that it is time to go back to the drawing board before we make the next move, and with a little bit of caution and good planning we mostly succeed. But what if we encounter a series of failure? Even after being cautious and after meticulously planning each and every detail. The biggest question that haunts us then is, whether there is light at the end of the tunnel? Although what we should be worried about, whether we will be able to survive inside the tunnel?  Let us revisit the story called ‘The Monkey and the Crocodile’ from Panchtantra to find an answer to the question.

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Once upon a time, on the banks of river, there was a monkey, who lived on a Jamun (blackberry) tree. The tree bore sweet fruits and the monkey used to live a happy and content life on it.

One day, a crocodile came out of the river to take some rest under the Jamun tree. When the monkey saw him from the tree, he said, “Try these sweet Jamun.” and tossed a couple of fruits to the crocodile. After this incident, every day the crocodile would come to eat fruits, and soon they became great friends.

One day the crocodile told the monkey that he wanted to take some fruits for his wife, to let her know the sweetness of these fruits. The monkey happily plucked more fruits for the crocodile to take home.

After consuming the juicy fruits the crocodile’s wife said. “These fruits are sweet as nectar. Since the monkey eats these fruits daily, he would be even tastier. Please bring me that monkey’s heart.”

The crocodile said. “He is my friend. I cannot do such a thing.”

After a lot of effort, the crocodile’s wife convinced him.

The next day the crocodile invited the monkey to have supper at his house.

Without any hesitation the monkey accepted the proposal and jumped on the crocodile’s back, and off they went to the crocodile’s home.

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Once they had traveled some distance, the crocodile told the monkey. “After consuming the Jamun fruits, my wife now wants to eat your heart. Since you have been consuming Jamun for so long, my wife believes that your heart should taste better than the Jamun you have all the time.”

The monkey was shocked, but he did not panic. Instead he took a deep breath and said. “You should have told me this earlier. It would be an honor for me to serve your wife my heart.  But I keep my heart in the burrow of the Jamun tree, let us go back and bring my heart.”

The crocodile believed the monkey and brought him back to the Jamun tree. As soon as they reached the tree the monkey jumped off the crocodile’s back and climbed up the tree and sat on a high branch.

Out of reach the monkey yelled. “I have only one heart and it is beating inside me. Now go away and never return back.”

Ashamed of his actions, the crocodile went away.

The moral of the story is, intelligence and presence of mind helps us overcome the most difficult situations.

The wisest thing to do in life is to solve the immediate problem first, and solve one problem at a time. Never lose hope or hesitate to use the tools at your disposal to make things happen.

Clearing Bills Promptly

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Bengaluru (Bangalore), India. Monday the 1st of August 2016. Exactly one week before the Goods and Services Tax (GST) bill was passed in the Lok Sabha (House of the People or the lower house of Parliament); my friend Amit Jain was having his breakfast at a restaurant. Being a vegetarian and a hardcore fan of South Indian food, his breakfast mostly consists of idli-vada.

“Saar! Why is it so difficult to get a bill passed in the parliament?” Narendra, a waiter at the restaurant, enquired.

Amit had absolutely no clue, but in his defence he do not watch Lok Sabha and Rajya Sabha (Council of States is the upper house of the Parliament of India) TV channels. Additionally, even his bill was pending for more than a week. As a rule, all the bills had to be cleared by Sunday and no one gets a credit for more than a week. So what could he tell him? He got nothing; He wasn’t carrying even a single rupee – not that it would have made any difference.

Somehow Amit had a feeling that this was merely a polite way of asking him to clear his dues. To make matters worse his memory isn’t that bad and the restaurant owner, Babu, snatching the watch of a customer who failed to clear his dues flashed in his head. Now, Amit wasn’t wearing a watch and the shorts and t-shirt he was wearing were old and slightly damaged. And yes, he wasn’t wearing undies. It was too early in the morning to wear one, and the very reason why we stopped going together on my bike for breakfast.

In short, even if Babu took everything Amit was wearing; his dues still won’t be cleared. Additionally this restaurant is about one hundred and fifty meters from his accommodation, which is not much of a distance. But walking nude on a street with a reasonably good population of malnourished street dogs, the very thought of it made a cold shiver run down Amit’s spine as his eyes widened with horror.

Amit wanted to forget the incident, but the images of the episode kept on flashing in his head, in high-definition format, for the next few days. But with the passage of time all memories start fading, and so happened with this one.

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But there is one that I still do not understand “Why is it so difficult to get a bill passed in the parliament?” Maybe it is the word ‘bill’ that gives the impression that we have to pay something. Although some bills do generate revenue, and the revenue thus generated is used for paying salaries, infrastructure development and things like that. Not that anyone is questioning the integrity of our parliamentarians,  but probably the best way to get a bill passed in the parliament would be to call it as a ‘pay-order’, at least the ones that generate revenue.

As about Amit, when he came out of his trance, he heard Narendra saying “Saar!” Next to him was the restaurant owner, Babu, he asked him “Should I put this bill also into your account?” Amit merely nodded his head, all the while expecting a series of spectacular events to unfold right before my eyes. Instead, Narendra and Babu gave him a smile and walked away. Not wanting to take any chances, Amit finished his breakfast quickly. On his way out he told Babu that he will clear his dues on the way to office. Which he did, and from that day onwards Amit started clearing bills promptly.

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