We live in a convulsive society that forces us to have very restless lives in which we do not stop for a second. If we neglect, we are dragged by a whirlwind of tasks, most of them insignificant, but they do not leave us a minute free. In fact, we are so imbued with this rhythm that sometimes, when we have a little time for ourselves, we feel guilty.
However, there is a time when it is necessary to say “enough!”. It suffices to the senseless preoccupations and the overwhelming rhythm of life. It suffices social pressures and the desire to do everything perfectly.
Rediscovering inner peace is fundamental. Therefore, from time to time it is imperative to relax a bit, take a break and give a new order to our priorities.
What is inner peace?
The inner peace is a subjective feeling of well-being, it is impalpable but very real since it fills us with a deep tranquillity. It is a state in which we are freed from the main concerns, fears, stress and suffering.
However, inner peace involves more than freeing ourselves from negative emotions and feelings, it also means being aware of the wonders of life and feeling fully connected with the universe and with ourselves.
Inner peace is a feeling of calmness in which we stop struggling against negative and disturbing thoughts and emotions, although that does not mean that they do not exist but that they stop dominating us and causing us harm. It is a state in which we mentally and emotionally separate ourselves from everyday problems and conflicts, stopping at the verminousness of the daily routine.
Can inner peace be achieved?
Many people think that it is impossible to achieve a state of inner peace. They say that everyday life is so uncertain and sometimes so capricious, that it is not possible to find serenity. And it is true, at least for these people. When we have a locus of external control and any situation has the power to negatively affect us and make us lose our calm, it is impossible to find inner peace. These people are like leaves moved by the wind.
However, this does not imply that it is impossible to achieve inner peace. When we have an internal locus of control we can decide which wars are worth fighting for. Once we take the reins of our life, we can aspire to inner peace.
Therefore, inner peace is not something that is along the way, it is a personal decision, it is something that we can construct by consciously assuming those behaviors that can give us serenity.
Seven keys to achieving that state of inner peace:
1. Give time for reflection. Spend less hours on newspapers and newscasts and more time exploring your interior. Once you allow your mind to absorb the negativity transmitted by most media, it is very difficult to clean it. So, schedule your day so that you have time to be alone with yourself and reflect. It is not that you turn your problems around but that you practice meditation, that you try to rediscover in yourself the peace and serenity that you need. It is about that every day, you are accountable to yourself.
2. Simplify your life. Sometimes you do not want the day to have more than 24 hours? We cannot extend the day at our whim but we can simplify our life, so that we take better advantage every hour. From time to time, it is convenient to stop and ask if we are doing what we like or if we are wasting time uselessly. At this point we should think about how to simplify our life so that we can focus on the important things, which give us satisfaction.
3. Avoid criticism, practice acceptance. We tend to compare, draw conclusions and then criticize. However, negative criticism is the worst enemy of inner peace. When we criticize we place ourselves in the position of fighting against someone, when we should empathize and try to understand. Criticism not only hurts those who are criticized but also the one who issues that judgment of value. Criticism is often an expression of mental rigidity and rejection. However, inner peace cannot be achieved by closing oneself to the world but by finding harmony with it.
4. Accept negative thoughts and emotions. Finding inner peace means, above all, balance. Therefore, you will not be able to find serenity if you continue to struggle against “negative” thoughts and emotions or if you intend to hide them in the most hidden part of your mind. To attain inner peace, you need to accept these thoughts and emotions, in fact, experiencing them, will lose their influence on you and you will get rid of their burden.
5. Learn to let go. Throughout our life we accumulate a lot of resentment and resentment, these feelings end up hurting us and prevent us from achieving that inner peace that we so long for. That is why it is fundamental that we learn to let go of those feelings that affect us and keep us tied to the past. The visualization technique ” the leaves of the river ” will help you to achieve it.
6. Practice gratitude. Do not let a single day go by without feeling grateful for something. There is always something for which to give thanks, you just must learn to value the things that we take for granted, as the simple fact of living or having at our side people who love us and those we love. When we begin to feel grateful for what we have, instead of complaining about what we do not have, we find a new internal balance.
7. Give without expecting to receive change. Selfishness has settled in our culture, people give hope of receiving something in return, in a kind of tacit Mafioso agreement. However, to achieve inner peace, we must shed selfishness and rediscover the pleasure of giving by the simple act of helping. The act of giving itself must be satisfactory, that is the goal, not to expect something in return.
It is important to remember that in a balanced state of mind a human being can measure emotions and take appropriate action in a conscious way.